Marriage gives rise to many types of nerves. One of them appears when you say a speech that you have prepared in public, both during the ceremony (at civil or religious marriages) or at a party. And whether the couple can face this difficult business if they want to, personalize and print more emotions into the night.
But how to do it? If you are not very good at the art of writing, ask for help from others to help you organize what you want to say, but without letting him write the letter. If you are good at writing, you know what you have to do. However, in any case, follow these tips to guide you on how to write your wedding speech in 5 steps.
1. Think, arrange, and write
First of all, think that wedding speech is a reflection of everything you feel. Therefore, don’t write like crazy with despair. Breathe, reflect, analyze … Think carefully about what you want to write, the type of message you want to give, what you feel and how to convey it, and most importantly, how much you want to show the world your feelings.
Next, draft all the ideas that appear on your head. Start by contextualizing when you are and look back to give your partner and public references about your relationship. Ask a lot about it and mention all parties involved. End with a good reflection of everything you have built and what still needs to be built. Next, think about tones. The facts can be several, but are decorated with certain styles can evoke some things or others. What do you like? Decide
before you start writing. From there, you can take a pen or type on a computer. Everything will flow because you have it beside it, as a guide to writing and not thinking about anything. Your relationship with that person is special and, even if you don’t know how to write, ideas will emerge. Because we have warned you, you can use help from people who write better than you or who are a little more organized. But remember that the essence must be yours, only yours.
2. Combine emotions with humor
Everyone is free to write as they wish, but from Zankyou we recommend a balance between emotion and humor. That step is key when it comes to speeches like that and that is an important reference to the past, to mention important people and talk about feelings that have caused you to take big steps. Even though it sounds melodramatic or deceptive, he seeks tears of personnel or speech that can provoke them; This means that your words and tone are quite interesting. But don’t forget the humor. Comedy helps to make things more bearable and in combination with emotions form a time bomb. First of all, humor helps break the ice, to calm the nerves (both you and people from your closest circle) and to lay the foundations of discourse which, as we say, must accompany comedy and emotion. Because humor reduces emotions so it doesn’t turn speech into tears or drama. In addition, this technique increases smile and laughter, the two biggest forms of expression that cannot be missed in such a joyful day. Humor is the key to life, relationships, and facing everything in a more positive way. Don’t forget him at your wedding! To use humor, try not to use easy jokes, past cliches or jokes. Trying to be original, smart, interesting anecdotes and mentioning the facts of all types, both those known by couples and those who are vox populi. But don’t change speech into excessive or excessive interpretation, circulated.
This is not a Comedy Club and maybe you don’t have the talent to look for such laughter. If you speak with measurable grace, I’m sure you will put everyone in your pocket. Finally, it is important to emphasize the importance of respect. Don’t rely on humor to disqualify someone (both present and absent) or to embarrass, even though this will be fun for high schoolers. Many people do it and it’s not funny, not at all. Sometimes, jokes are misinterpreted and bring the people involved. Always use comedy with respect, even if you release funny ridicule.
3. Invite guests and remember those who don’t
Don’t forget about other people. Marriage is an event starring a couple, it’s obvious, but your guests (of course more than 100 and maybe more than 200 or 300) also deserve a few words. And we’re not talking about dedicating a few lines to each one, but mentioning the people who help you the most on this road or include anecdotes with family and friends. And, above all, don’t forget to talk about two families. Obviously, most of the boyfriend or girlfriend’s backbone is his speech about his partner and his closest people, but other families deserve a nod and a consideration sample. Make special statements to people who have not been able to attend due to agenda issues, health or geographical situation.
And in the case of people who don’t exist anymore, try not to draw drama or use the absence to build a sad climate. Do not depend on important losses, especially if they have recently, and do not mention if they are not very direct people, because you never know what sensitivity you can feel. But if the absence primarily affects you and you want to mention a few things specifically, do it respectfully, remember the good times and regret your absence with good words free from drama.
4. Don’t take too many licenses in languages and extensions
If you know how to write, you have several points gained on the way to this perfect speech. If you are great at it, much better, really. However, remember that this task does not aspire to a PhD or Nobel Prize for Literature. It must be written well, of course, but there are beautiful ways of writing that can be far from splendor and excess ornamentation. Use simple, natural language, at the top of all who attend, including children, teenagers, adults and seniors. Don’t get caught up with confused expressions, complicated lexicons or rhetorical figures who work too much. Everyone must understand the message and this, although beautiful, must not be read by anyone.
To do this, write with your heart. This language is usually not refilled, unless you are Quevedo, but it is close and understandable to everyone who has ever been loved. You also do not graduate from everyday language. Use street words and jokes if you and your audience feel comfortable with them, but avoid bad words and expressions that are too general so that only some people can understand. Remember that you are in a formal event! On the other hand, it controls text extensions. The speech must have the right size, which is not tired after reading first. To do this, share with a few people (with a little if you want to keep a surprise) and reach a conclusion extending or shortening it. For this, it is always better to write a little and with a lot of meaning and with empty words. You have to be clear, concise, and emotional in the same section, avoiding the Quote-style excuses that cause interference to your audience. Thus, they will eventually lose the message flow; It’s better to remember for a good speech than for the endless and soporific.
5. Practice speech and enjoy
Speaking in public is not a good taste activity for everyone. For many people, this is true voting, a real trial, so it would be better to write confidently and practice a thousand speeches. To do this, use a mirror that allows you to face yourself. Record yourself to find the virtues of your interpretation and your perorata errors. This technique will also help you to see your actual image in that scenario and bury the fictitious and distorted (bad, always bad) stamp that will come to your mind if you are not safe. If this is the case, try talking about your anxiety before starting a speech. In this way, people will be more permissive with your mistakes in public speaking, showing empathy and tenderness, and confident laughter.
It might not hurt to memorize almost as a whole, but you have to relax when you have to say it to avoid the sensation of a robot, like someone who learns something without feeling it. You must show with your voice and give a sign of what your words say. That way, the speech will be round.
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(ISD)— August 26, 2018